IT’S MY BIRTHDAY, HERE’S MY WISH

Today, I turn 41 years old. This is not what I though 41 would look like. I have no traditional markers of success. No kids, no home, no dog, no yard. As a nomad, my only address ends with .com. Reflections on Turning 41 I do have retirement funds. I don’t have debt. I have crows…

Trump’s Win Is Our Forest Fire

Like many of my friends and family, I woke early and openly wept. Tears, heaving sobs I was unable to stop. Loosing the 2016 Presidential Election to Donald Trump was a punch in the gut. Why are women crying so openly? Because America once again said, this behavior is fine. It’s non big deal. Women…

A Home Office To Miss

As Bello and I prepare to hit the road this Sunday for Italy & Spain, my excitement is hard to contain. Our passports have missed us. With 90 days of travel ahead of us, we’re working our tails off, trying to get our business in order before we depart. For my part, I’m wrapping up my…

Cooking For Bello Followers, I’m Sorry

As Bello and I launch our first project together, it’s been a hard two weeks, technically speaking. I created a second blog using my CookingForBello login and profile and entered a very confusing corner of WordPress.  I can’t be alone among my fellow WordPress Bloggers on this one, now I feel your pain! CookingForBello followers, my valued…

Cooking For Bello Author Brandy Shearer

Nice to meet you, I’m Brandy Shearer Cookingforbello is a reflection of my growing understanding of what “building a life together” really means. Do you remember as a kid, staring up at the stars, dreaming of the handsome Prince who sweeps you up to live a big romantic life, far away? I too dreamed, sharing…

Un-Junk-Ucation

Over the years, I’ve moved 19 times. Apparently, I’m unable to settle since I sold my childhood home… while my Mom was traveling in Germany… but that’s another story, Love you Mom!

That many moves makes you really, really good at two things.

Generation Selfie

The word Selfie represents a generational divide, a single word evoking amusingly variant visualizations depending on the age of the person in pose. GenXers, we started posing with friends, our partners, our parents to record a great moment on vacation, a birthday, a coming together after an absence. We look ok, we’re smiling, we’re getting the…

International Women’s Day: A Tribute to Strength Through Adversity

In 1923, in a letter to Sherwood Anderson, Georgia O’Keeffe wrote: “I feel that a real living form is the natural result of the individual’s effort to create the living thing out of the adventure of his spirit into the unknown — where it has experienced something — felt something — it had not understood —…

Returning To Flight: The Power of Being Debt Free

Do you ever have that magical dream, the one where you’re flying? A normal dream full of random people, surroundings, conversations, everyone walking along together, then, a feeling of defiance, “I can do this” and you take off running. With one flap of your arms (yes silly as that seems) and a mighty leap, running turns to flight and you…

A Plea, Let Travel Change You

All through last and this year, I honestly and sadly, for the first time was aware of news reports of slave labor in the Myanmar (formerly Burma.) Also sadly, this is nowhere near a new problem in Burma. It’s been in the news for years, decades even. I just missed it, glossed over the headlines….

Countless Outbursts of Genuine Happiness

Each year, my Husband creates a gift that shows more love for me as his wife than an acceptance speech co-written by George Clooney and Tom Hanks. Being a photographer, Bello takes countless photos. At the end of each year, he combs the archive selecting his favorites. Then, he shares them with me by printing a book…

$7,210 NYC Wedding Planned in 64 Days

Have you heard? Couples who have cheaper weddings stay married longer! If that’s the case, my Husband, my love, my Bello had better get used to my annoying habit of being bright, happy and perky the moment I wake up each morning. I’m pretty sure most humans would need more coffee than Bello to handle…

Squidgy Bits

Like many American women, I grew up loving Julia Roberts. She seemed real, more so than many women depicted in Hollywood. Her laughter explodes forth with such exuberance, one might expect its power to shock the woman herself. What’s more, she gravitates towards scripts that allow her to play robust characters. While she’s a beautiful woman, that’s rarely…

Perk From Home

While my Husband tells me I am a brave woman, I’ve always thought of myself as lucky. One only need look as far as the people in my life to see my luck is true. I am fortunate enough to have the kind of friends, that you learn from, admire and respect. Just a few years ago two of my best…

10 Reasons Jersey City Rocks (Tiny Change, Big Impact)

After living 3 years in a 200 square foot apartment in Gramercy Park, I can say first hand shrinking your life brings immense happiness. Your thoughts shift from “I need that” to “where would I put that?” You suddenly have more money and fewer things but best yet, fewer need for things. For the first time…

Facing Fear

Not everyone has the true full support of a partner in life. I didn’t until I turned 38. Now that I do, this is how it changed my life. After having grown up in a typical American family, full of strong, moral, risk adverse yet friendly, warm and capable Midwest folk, I was convinced my…